Friends of Shoshonshin, before you embark on your journey of rope bondage, we believe it is necessary to provide you with a safety lesson. This is to ensure you have a safe and enjoyable rope experience in the future.
1. Safety First: Shared Responsibility
1.1 The Golden Rule
Rope bondage isย never risk-free. Our goal is toย reduceย andย manageย risks.ย Everyone (Top or Bottom) is responsible for their own safety.
- If youโre the Bottom:ย Read the "Rigger Safety" section. Learn to spot skilled riggers. Understand the risks before surrendering control.
- If youโre the Top:ย Read the "Bottom Safety" section. Stay within your skill level. Find mentors to grow.
- Never stop learning:ย This guide is a starting pointโnot your only resource! Great teachers offer unique insights. New safety info can come from anywhere. Stay open, adapt, and share updates with us!
2. Body & Health Awareness
2.1 Medical Risks Are Real
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Gentle tiesย (loose, adjustable) = Lower risk.
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Tight/immobilizing tiesย = High risk (ropes can tighten if you struggle).
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Injuries can happen:ย Nerve damage may build up over time.ย Speak up immediatelyย if something feels "off."
2.2 Nerve & Circulation Checks
Monitor constantly!
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Skin warmth:ย Check before/during scenes. Know your partnerโs "normal."
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Grip test:ย Have the Bottom squeeze your fingers.ย Weak grip? Untie NOW.
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Tie wrists/ankles LASTย (theyโre injury-prone). Adjust if posture changes.
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Hot spots to protect:
Area Risk Action Radial nerveย (outer arm) Numbness Move rope ASAP! Brachial plexusย
(shoulder/armpit)
Arm numbness Avoid knots here. Test poses first (e.g., arms behind back for 10 min). Wrists Nerve damage Avoid inner wrist. Keep 1โ2 fingersโ space. Femoral artery
ย (upper thigh)
Leg circulation loss Keep 2 fingersโ space under ropes. Neck Brain damage/death Never press rope against the front of the neck.


The waist is a particularly sensitive area. During suspension,ย always prioritize the hipsย for weight-bearingโthis significantly improves bothย support capacityย andย comfort.
2.3 Special Conditions
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Fibromyalgia:ย Pain sensitivity varies. Ask your partner about their triggers and limits.
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Other issues:ย Asthma, heart problems, diabetes, past injuriesโdiscuss everything!
2.4 Impact Play (Sensation)
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Safe zones:ย Large muscles (butt, thighs, back).
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Danger zones:ย Kidneysย (lower back)โstrikes here can causeย internal bleeding.
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Always:ย Negotiate first. Start gentle.
2.5 STI Prevention
Use barriers (condoms/dental dams) forย anyย sexual contact.
Pro tip:ย Cut condoms into squares for DIY dental dams.
3. For Riggers (Tops): Your Duty of Care
3.1 Mindset Matters
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Youโre in charge:ย Once tied, the Bottom reliesย entirelyย on you.
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Never tie if:ย Tired, drunk, or high.
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Check your ego:ย Master basics before complex ties. Find mentors.
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Respect limits:ย Boundaries are sacred. Breaking trust ruins reputations.
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NEVER leave a tied person alone.
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Aftercare is mandatory:ย Help them "land" emotionally/physically. (Some prefer solo timeโnegotiate this!).
3.2 Know Your Partner
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Safe words/signals:ย Agree on clear cues (e.g., "RED," shaking keys, 3 loud grunts).
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Talk openly:ย Share desires/fears. (Hint: Honesty is sexy!)
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Health check:ย Ask about old injuries, flexibility, pain triggers, and mental health (e.g., past trauma).
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Watch breathing:ย Changes signal excitementย orย distress.
3.3 Rope Safety Rules
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Emergency prep:
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Keepย EMT shears/hook knifeย nearby.
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Practice cutting tense rope!ย Prioritize safety over saving rope.
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Shorter ropes = easier escapes.
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Before tying:
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Inspect ropes for wear/dirt.
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Clean ropes after body contact (or assign sets per partner).
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Hydrate and snack.
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During tying:
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NEVER use slip knotsย (they tighten on their own).
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Tie in theย final positionย (movement changes rope tension).
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Avoid knots on theย spineย (especially if lying down) orย armpits.
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4. For Bottoms: Self-Advocacy Saves Lives
4.1 Know Your Limits
Tell your Top about:
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Your wants/curiosities.
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Hard limits ("NO").
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Physical conditions (e.g., "I canโt bend my elbows past 90ยฐ").
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Emotional triggers (e.g., "Donโt call me stupid").
4.2 Speak Up!
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Share health infoย beforeย scenes.
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Report numbness, pain, or breathing changesย IMMEDIATELY. Donโt "tough it out."
4.3 Other Tips
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Trust your Top:ย Youโre giving them major control. Vet them carefully!
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Build fitness:ย Strength/flexibility = safer play. Warm up before scenes.
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Protect yourself:ย Cover your face if the Top fumbles rope ends.
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Accept aftercare:ย Itโs part of the process. Speak up if you need space.
5. Negotiation & Real-World Safety
5.1 What to Discuss
| Topic | Questions to Ask |
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| Health | "Any medical issues? How flexible are you?" |
| Intimacy | "What sexual contact is okay? How do you feel about rope marks?" |
| Mindset | "Do you like humiliation? Can you orgasm during scenes? Multiple times?" |
| Aftercare | "How do you want to be untied? What aftercare do you need? How long?" |
5.2 Stay Street-Smart
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Verify partners:ย Demand references from trusted community members.ย No vetting? No play!
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Tops:ย Watch for Bottoms who hide health/mental issues.
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Bottoms:ย Avoid Tops who disrespect boundaries or overestimate skills.
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Meet firstย at public events (munches, workshops).
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Play initially in group spacesย (parties, dungeons).
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For private meets:ย Tell a friend. Set check-in calls.

